I made a resolution this year to apply to one guest post and one job every week. This means I’m putting myself out there, but also means I’m getting a lot of rejection.
Rejection is hard! It hurts the self-esteem. It dampers the spirit. It can be hard to keep going when faced with so much rejection. So how do I do it?
Well, full disclaimer, I’ve only been doing this for two months. But I’m still very excited about these goals! I keep myself excited by playing a little game.
Do you know how to play football? If you don’t, basically each team has to advance across the length of the field. Each team gets four attempts (called “downs”) to advance the ball 10 yards. Generally, if the team doesn’t advance the ball 10 yards in three downs, they’ll kick/punt the ball to the other team; otherwise the opposing team gets the ball at the last place the ball was downed, which is usually advantageous to the opposing team.
Basically, I’ve made a little football game for myself to deal with rejections. I apply for three jobs and if I get three rejections, I give myself a bit of a rest. In my mind, I punt it away. If I get an acceptance along the way, I keep on trucking along! I hold that acceptance in my mind and reset the counter. It makes me feel like I’m advancing towards my goals even if the win is a little bit trivial at times.
It’s a fun, silly way not to see myself as endless rejections. Even great teams go three and out sometimes. Then they take a break, regroup and try again. It gives me a bit of grace to deal with a string of rejections but also keeps me pumped up when I succeed. I can just envision myself trucking along the field until finally, hopefully, one day, I’ll get my touchdown!
What do you think of this method for facing rejection?