Hi and welcome to The Give and Get! I’m Lisa, a lawyer in the DC area, helping you to find meaning through money.
On December 31, 2015, I got engaged. On August 22, 2016, I learned that it wasn’t going to work out. Instead of planning a life together with my boyfriend of 5 years, I had to quickly revert to planning for a life for one and find new goals and new meaning for myself, as a financially fearless singleton. This blog is about my journey.
Why I Write about Finding Meaning Through Money
I love reading personal finance blogs but I started getting concerned with some of the tips I was reading. For instance, I read a blog article once that advocated eating food from the trash. A quick three things wrong about this tactic: 1) your reputation and your health are more important than money (even if you don’t believe this philosophically, they are both very costly to repair); 2) food is inexpensive so this is an inefficient way to save money; and 3) I love food and wouldn’t wish this strategy on my worst enemy. I want to write about saving money but also living a life of integrity and wonderful pleasures – like cooking, eating and sharing great food, not skulking around eating someone’s gross cold leftovers.
On the other hand, I read another article about someone working one year and then quitting to travel the world. I enjoy travel and I’ve been to 15 countries. But I think a life where you’re just a dilettante, where you’re just traveling to other countries, watching other people live their lives, is boring. It’s too me-focused. I want my life, and my money, to be about more than fleeting pleasure; I want to develop as a person, help other people, learn, build, create, connect; I don’t want my life just to be spectating. The first reason I write is I want to show a different perspective on personal finance besides miserly frugality and empty hedonism.
The second reason I write is that, in my real life I know so many women kicking butt in their careers, but I don’t necessarily see that in the personal finance blogosphere. I could see my mind being warped into thinking that women were bad with money because well-paid women seem to be left out of the conversation. There’s nothing wrong with women who are struggling with their finances blogging about it, but I think it’d be great to have examples of women who are killing it, to balance it out. Everyone needs great mentors.
Here are some of my favorite articles:
The 101 Life Skills Every Adult Must Know (that save money too)
The Secret to Getting Up Early
On Minimalism and Remembering What Really Matters
This is the Secret to Being Healthy, Frugal and Happy
The Personal Finance Community Should Take the Lead on Helping the Poor
2017: A Year in Review
On Treating Yo’self
Why “Frugal” is my Least Favorite F-Word
Here are some more articles that you might like:
How I Paid off $112,000 in debt in 18 months
How I Saved $65k in Four Years for Graduate School
How I Saved Tens of Thousands in Law School
A Controversial Way to Save Money on Groceries
Other articles I’ve written:
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