Don’t Force Your Kids to Eat Their Vegetables: What I Learned from “First Bite”

All the books I’ve read this year have changed my life – via new information and/or new perspectives. This book, First Bite: How We Learn to Eat, is the only one that changed my family’s life.

I accidentally left this book in my sister’s car, and she started reading it. She tried an experiment described in the book, the tiny tastes program, on her picky son, to great success. His palate has been considerably expanded to include new favorites like cherries, asparagus and cucumbers. The program consists of offering the subject an incredibly small amount of the target food over a period of a few days. The subject can also be bribed with a spoonful of their favorite food for successful completion of each “tiny taste.” But because the taste is so small, the subject generally complies anyway. And with repeated exposure to the taste, the subject learns to like the taste.

This is exactly the opposite tactic that adults who are picky about eating were subjected to – generally their parents made them eat a whole plate of food they hated without any choice.  This program works because it’s not as frightening to eat a small amount of the food and because many children and adults really can enjoy a wide variety of foods if they’re comfortable with them.

The most interesting bit of knowledge that I learned from this book is that there is almost no genetic component to our taste. If we were born in a different culture, we would be eating that culture’s food rather the one we currently do. The food we tend to like is food that is familiar to us and that may also be associated with good memories. The food we tend to avoid is food we are unfamiliar with and/or is associated with bad experiences in our past, like being forced to eat a whole plateful of food we hate/weren’t familiar with.

I know I still can’t stand the smell of creamed corn because I threw up once after eating it when I was a kid, so I totally believe in this hypothesis that bad memories dictate the foods we avoid. Also, I’m not a picky eater at all and perhaps part of that is due to growing up in an Asian family where we ate all our meals family style. I could put as many or as few things on my plate as I liked. I was fully in control, though my parents would of course encourage us to expand our palates. (We all eventually grew to enjoy bitter melon but it was definitely a no-go when we were young. Hey, it took 20 some years of “tiny tastes” but we made it!)

The more I read about our personal preferences, it seems like we are really products of our culture. Like how our taste in music tends to run towards whatever was popular (or at least whatever music we listened to) when we were 13. That’s why I’m a 90s music girl, but that’s why most women of my age also listen to the same music. We are all uniquely the same in this way. Our food preferences just show that we are products of our upbringing and how scary the food culture was when we were children.

Overall though, people can still change. One way to do this may be to incorporate something like a “tiny tastes” program into one’s own life. Small exposures breed familiarity, which may breed to affinity (though there’s no guarantee that you’ll like something even after a tiny taste). You are not confined to your childhood experiences and instituting  small changes can help you change your habits and your tastes (maybe, I’m shooting off the cuff here – it’s a hypothesis).

Let’s talk about our traumatic eating experiences!

Why the Poor Can’t Get Ahead in the U.S.: Reading “The Broken Ladder”

Look – a Republican reading a book about inequality? You all should be so proud of me.

Have you ever played that game where you’re trying to survive as a working poor person? The game keeps giving you terrible options but I’m so much of a stoic that I came out ok. It seemed like a bad exercise. I’m sure others would think I wouldn’t really be able to pass the game in real life.

According to The Broken Ladder by Keith Payne, the latter group may be wrong. The book covers how inequality completely changes the poor’s perspectives, focusing on the now, increasing risky behavior. Because I’m not one of the poor, I may be able to lift myself by my bootstraps but, if I had been born in poverty, I likely couldn’t.

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